{"id":2996,"date":"2015-07-06T14:18:18","date_gmt":"2015-07-06T18:18:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.inthineheart.com\/staging\/8143\/?p=2996"},"modified":"2015-07-06T14:18:18","modified_gmt":"2015-07-06T18:18:18","slug":"for-those-who-hurt-part-two-an-article-by-pastor-terry-coomer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.inthineheart.com\/staging\/8143\/2015\/07\/06\/for-those-who-hurt-part-two-an-article-by-pastor-terry-coomer\/","title":{"rendered":"For Those Who Hurt – Part Two – an article by Pastor Terry Coomer"},"content":{"rendered":"

(I received the following article via email back in January. There are hurting people everywhere – if you know of someone that might benefit from this, please prayerfully consider sharing with them. It was written by Pastor Terry Coomer.)<\/em><\/p>\n

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These messages may be copied in their entirety to help Christians in the rearing of their children for God, strengthening their family, and their marriage. They are not to be changed in any manner or to be sold.\u00a0 This header must be on any copy.\u00a0 If you have any questions, please feel free to contact the author.<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Text: Psalm 37:1-9<\/span><\/strong><\/b> \u201cFret not thyself because of evildoers, neither be thou envious against the workers of iniquity.\u00a0 For they shall soon be cut down like the grass, and wither as the green herb. Trust in the Lord, and do good; so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed.\u00a0 Delight thyself also in the Lord; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.\u00a0 Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.\u00a0 And he shall bring forth thy righteousness as the light, and thy judgement as the noonday.\u00a0 Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for him: fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the man who bringeth wicked devices to pass. Cease from anger, and forsake wrath; fret not thyself in any wise to do evil.\u00a0 For evildoers shall be cut off: but those that wait upon the Lord, they shall inherit the earth.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Romans 12:17-21 \u201c<\/span><\/strong>Recompense to no man evil for evil.\u00a0 Provide things honest in the sight of all men. If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men. Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay\u00a0saith the Lord.\u00a0 Therefore if thine enemy hunger,\u00a0feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.\u00a0 Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.\u201d<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

\u00a0My friend, the\u00a0gist of Romans 12 is spiritual gifts.\u00a0 If you get active in using your gifts then that means you will deal with people and when you deal with people you will get hurt.\u00a0 That is just the way it is. The problem is how does God want us to respond to this kind of thing?\u00a0 I do want to point out that this is dealing with a Christian person (someone who is saved) dealing with being hurt by another saved person or an unbeliever.\u00a0 Many Christian families do not serve God today because they have been hurt at some time.\u00a0 The result of Christian families not dealing with hurt God\u2019s way has had a devastating effect on their lives, their children\u2019s lives, and the church.\u00a0 Last time we came to the point of seeing that a person has to be emotionally free to be able to do good to their enemy.\u00a0 How does a person become emotionally free?\u00a0 Trust God as Psalm 37:3 tells us.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0Psalm 37:3 \u201c<\/span><\/strong>Trust in the Lord, and do good; so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed.\u201d <\/span><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0Folks, you will be hurt when you deal with others.\u00a0 How does God\u2019s kind of person respond?\u00a0 God wants us to be God responders not people responders.<\/span><\/u><\/strong>\u00a0 That is something that every church and every Christian must learn.\u00a0 We are to be God responders.\u00a0 What happens when the average Christian gets hurt?\u00a0 What do they do?\u00a0 They call up their nearest Christian friend and that friend fellowships in the hurt with them negatively.\u00a0 That is the wrong way to handle it.\u00a0 They will say, \u201cThe way you were treated was wrong and they should not have done that.\u201d\u00a0 Christian, when that happens, are you edifying that believer?\u00a0 No, what you are doing is giving them additional excuses to live in this way (Bitterness, anger, wrath, and evil).<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0Do you know what God wants your response to be?\u00a0 This is very important for each one of us to understand.\u00a0 We need to have a Biblical response, because we want to be God\u2019s kind of person, living according to God\u2019s principles.\u00a0 You could say, \u201cJoe, I know that really hurt you what they did.\u00a0 I think it would be important for you to respond the way God would like for you to.\u00a0 I tell you what, I will pray with you in the matter that you will be able to commit it to God and trust Him to handle the situation.\u201d\u00a0 Now would not that just shock the socks off them?\u00a0 That is God\u2019s person responding in God\u2019s way.<\/span><\/p>\n

Psalm 37:1-9<\/span><\/strong> \u201cFret not thyself because of evildoers, neither be thou envious against the workers of iniquity.\u00a0 For they shall soon be cut down like the grass, and wither as the green herb. Trust in the Lord, and do good; so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed.\u00a0 Delight thyself also in the Lord; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.\u00a0 Commit thy way unto the lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.\u00a0 And he shall bring forth thy righteousness as the light, and thy judgement as the noonday.\u00a0 Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for him: fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the man who bringeth wicked devices to pass. Cease from anger, and forsake wrath; fret not thyself in any wise to do evil. For evildoers shall be cut off: but those that wait upon the Lord, they shall inherit the earth.\u201d<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

The fleshly response to hurt is in verse one and eight.\u00a0 Verse one: 1. Fret 2. Envy. Verse eight: 3. Anger 4. Wrath 5. Evil.\u00a0 The fret, envy, anger, wrath, evil cycle.\u00a0 That is the fleshly response.\u00a0 David here was hurt because it seemed like the evil doers prospered and he could not understand that.\u00a0 He can respond in one of two ways.\u00a0 In the flesh, he can fret over the hurt and become envious of the other person etc. (the person who hurt him). This envy leads to anger, which leads to wrath (strong desire to avenge) and when he does that he wants to do evil to that person.\u00a0 We know that responding by evil is not of God.\u00a0 We know this is not right, but how many Christians do you know that want to do evil to others because they have been hurt?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0Romans 12:17; 19\u00a0\u201cRecompense to no man evil for evil.\u00a0 Provide things honest in the sight of all men. Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay\u00a0saith the Lord.\u201d<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0If you respond God\u2019s way as God\u2019s kind of person, he will take care of you.\u00a0 That is his promise and that is what he did for David when Saul tried to kill him.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0Psalm 37: 3-7 \u201c<\/span><\/strong>Trust in the Lord, and do good; so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed. Delight thyself also in the Lord; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.\u00a0 And he shall bring forth thy righteousness as the light, and thy judgement as the noonday. Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for him: fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the man who bringeth wicked devices to pass.\u201d<\/span><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0The spiritual response is found in these verses:
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Verse 3 – Trust\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Verse 7 – Rest<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Verse 4 – Delight\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0 Verse 7 – Wait Patiently<\/span><\/p>\n

Verse 5 – Commit<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0Spiritual Response: The Trust, Delight, Commit, Rest, Wait Patiently cycle.\u00a0 The Flesh Cycle: The Fret, Envy, Anger, Wrath, Evil cycle.<\/span><\/p>\n

Someone says, \u201cWell Pastor Coomer, Are you telling me that I should be like an old rug and let others beat on me all the time.\u201d\u00a0 NO!\u00a0 Because if you do that it will build up like water in a bucket and eventually that bucket will be dumped on someone.\u00a0 God knows it hurts and he wants you to get out of His way and let Him handle it.\u00a0 People tell God, \u201cGod, they hurt me and I have got to do something about it!<\/span><\/p>\n

Step 1<\/span><\/strong>
\nPsalm 37: 3 \u201c<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/b>Trust in the Lord, and do good; so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed.\u201d<\/span><\/em>
\nTrust in the Lord \u2013 we have talked about His justice, His mercy and who He is.\u00a0 And until we trust Him, we will not be emotionally free and we cannot do well unto the person who had hurt us.<\/span><\/p>\n

Step 2<\/span><\/strong>
\nPsalm 37: 4 \u201cDelight thyself also in the Lord; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.\u201d<\/span><\/strong>\u00a0 Delight means to get emotionally preoccupied with what is going to happen.\u00a0 When our girls were little and we would travel to Grandma and Grandpa\u2019s house they would get emotionally preoccupied with getting there.\u00a0 \u201cAre we there yet daddy?\u201d\u00a0 That is what the word delight means. Isaiah 26:3 \u201cthou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.\u201d<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Folks, have you ever stopped to think that the hurt you are experiencing is there so God can receive honor and glory?\u00a0 Jesus died on the cross.\u00a0 He suffered hurt for my sins and your sins so we might go to heaven.\u00a0 God used that hurt to bring honor and glory to himself<\/span><\/u><\/strong>.\u00a0 Also, here God is saying you can delight<\/span><\/strong> for the person who had hurt you.\u00a0 God has a specific job to do in his or her life, but God cannot and will not work that way if you are in the way with the fret, envy, anger, wrath, evil cycle.\u00a0 Have you ever noticed how many times in the Bible God has said if you will do this I will do this?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0I John 1:9 \u201c<\/span><\/strong>If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.\u201d <\/span><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Get out of the way and let God work.\u00a0 You can delight in the Lord with your own life, and that God will receive the honor and glory.\u00a0 This will work in the life of the one who hurt you and your own life.\u00a0 If you are fretting, you are not trusting.\u00a0 And if you are envying you are not delighting.
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Step 3<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Psalm 37:5 \u201c<\/span><\/strong>Commit thy way unto the lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.\u201d<\/span><\/b><\/em>\u00a0 \u201c<\/span><\/strong>Commit our way,\u201d means our lifestyle lives the way God wants us to live.\u00a0 Our total life revolves around what God wants.\u00a0 Here is where Satan will contrive to come at you because you want to stay in control.\u00a0 You may have to spend many hours on your knees committing this to God.\u00a0 You may have to go back to God over and over on it.\u00a0 You may find yourself fretting over it again and becoming envious and angry.\u00a0 You may have to go back to God many times when you find yourself slipping into the fleshly cycle.\u00a0 Many times I have had to spend hours on my knees over this.\u00a0 God has options to deal with this person you never dreamed of.\u00a0 God always gets His man. Jonah was stubborn and rebellious and God finally had to put him in the belly of the fish for three days and nights.\u00a0 God got his man and if this person continues to live in rebellion, God just may take him home early.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I John 5:16-17 \u201c<\/span><\/strong>If any man see his brother sin a sin which is not unto death, he shall ask, and he shall give him life for them that sin not unto death.\u00a0 There is a sin unto death: I do not say that he shall pray for it.\u00a0 All unrighteousness is sin: and there is a sin not unto death.\u201d<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

\u00a0If you are an unsaved person and God has been dealing with you about your salvation, I would not put that off.\u00a0 God may just decide He has dealt long enough with you.\u00a0 The Bible tells us \u201cnow is the accepted time behold now is the day of salvation.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Step 4<\/span><\/strong>
\nPsalm 37:7 \u201cRest in the Lord, and wait patiently for him: fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the man who bringeth wicked devices to pass.\u201d \u00a0\u201cRest in the Lord,\u201d<\/span><\/strong> means you have it committed to Him and you are ready to jump out of the war and God is in control.<\/span><\/p>\n

Step 5<\/span><\/strong>
\nPsalm 37:7 \u201cRest in the Lord, and wait patiently for him: fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the man who bringeth wicked devices to pass.\u201d<\/span><\/strong> \u201cWait patiently for Him.\u201d<\/span><\/strong>\u00a0 We must learn to wait patiently for God to work in this hurt situation and He has promised to do so.<\/span><\/p>\n

Psalm 37:9; 11 \u201cFor evildoers shall be cut off: but those that wait upon the Lord, they shall inherit the earth.\u00a0 But the meek shall inherit the earth; and shall delight themselves in the abundance of peace.\u201d<\/span><\/strong> Notice the word \u201cmeek\u201d<\/span><\/strong>.\u00a0 Meekness means waiting upon the Lord.\u00a0 We have the crazy idea in this day that meekness is weakness.\u00a0 Friend, this is strong.\u00a0 A weak person cannot love His enemy.\u00a0 Patience is the spiritual grace of meekness<\/span><\/strong>.\u00a0 God says give it to me and get out of the way.\u00a0 Be emotionally free and I will deal with this.<\/span><\/p>\n

Psalm 37:23, 40 \u201cThe steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord: and he delighteth in his way.\u00a0 And the Lord shall help them, and deliver them: he shall deliver them from the wicked, and save them, because they trust in him.\u201d<\/span><\/strong>\u00a0 That is God\u2019s promise to you.\u00a0 Are you a people responder or a God responder?\u00a0 Is your response that I will want to knock his head off and try to do it?\u00a0 If you are God\u2019s child, this is not the way He wants you to respond.\u00a0 Christian, we need to respond to hurt as God\u2019s kind of person.<\/span><\/p>\n

~ Dr. Terry Coomer<\/p>\n

Dr. Terry L. Coomer is the Pastor of Hope Baptist Church, the Director of For the Love of the Family Ministries, and Hope Biblical Counseling Center. He has also served as the Publisher of the nation’s fastest growing daily newspaper. Pastor Coomer holds Family Conferences in the local church. To have a meeting at your church or other needs he may be contacted at (501)983-4403, tlcoomer@juno.com<\/a>. There are many helpful articles and material on our web site to help you change your life at www.fortheloveofthefamily.com<\/a>. We serve the God of answers. If you need help finding those answers you may contact us at tlcoomer@juno.com<\/a>. To be removed from our mailing list send an e-mail to tlcoomer@juno.com<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

(I received the following article via email back in January. There are hurting people everywhere – if you know of someone that might benefit from this, please prayerfully consider sharing with them. It was written by Pastor Terry Coomer.) *************************************************************************************** These messages may be copied in their entirety to help Christians in the rearing of their children for God, strengthening their family, and their marriage. They are not to be changed in any manner or to be sold.\u00a0 This header must be on any copy.\u00a0 If you have any questions, please feel free to contact the author. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Text: Psalm 37:1-9 \u201cFret not thyself because of evildoers, neither be thou envious against the workers of iniquity.\u00a0 For they shall soon be cut down like the grass, and wither as the green herb. Trust in the Lord, and do good; so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed.\u00a0 Delight thyself also in the Lord; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.\u00a0 Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.\u00a0 And he shall bring forth thy righteousness as the light, and thy judgement as the noonday.\u00a0 Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for him: fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the man who bringeth wicked devices to pass. Cease from anger, and forsake wrath; fret not thyself in any wise to do evil.\u00a0 For evildoers shall be cut off: but those that wait upon the Lord, they shall inherit the earth.\u201d\u00a0 Romans 12:17-21 \u201cRecompense to no man evil for evil.\u00a0 Provide things honest in the sight of all men. If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men. Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay\u00a0saith the Lord.\u00a0 Therefore if thine enemy hunger,\u00a0feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.\u00a0 Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.\u201d \u00a0My friend, the\u00a0gist of Romans 12 is spiritual gifts.\u00a0 If you get active in using your gifts then that means you will deal with people and when you deal with people you will get hurt.\u00a0 That is just the way it is. The problem is how does God want us to respond to this kind of thing?\u00a0 I do want to point out that this is dealing with a Christian person (someone who is saved) dealing with being hurt by another saved person or an unbeliever.\u00a0 Many Christian families do not serve God today because they have been hurt at some time.\u00a0 The result of Christian families not dealing with hurt God\u2019s way has had a devastating effect on their lives, their children\u2019s lives, and the church.\u00a0 Last time we came to the point of seeing that a person has to be emotionally free to be able to do good to their enemy.\u00a0 How does a person become emotionally free?\u00a0 Trust God as Psalm 37:3 tells us. \u00a0Psalm 37:3 \u201cTrust in the Lord, and do good; so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed.\u201d \u00a0Folks, you will be hurt when you deal with others.\u00a0 How does God\u2019s kind of person respond?\u00a0 God wants us to be God responders not people responders.\u00a0 That is something that every church and every Christian must learn.\u00a0 We are to be God responders.\u00a0 What happens when the average Christian gets hurt?\u00a0 What do they do?\u00a0 They call up their nearest Christian friend and that friend fellowships in the hurt with them negatively.\u00a0 That is the wrong way to handle it.\u00a0 They will say, \u201cThe way you were treated was wrong and they should not have done that.\u201d\u00a0 Christian, when that happens, are you edifying that believer?\u00a0 No, what you are doing is giving them additional excuses to live in this way (Bitterness, anger, wrath, and evil). \u00a0Do you know what God wants your response to be?\u00a0 This is very important for each one of us to understand.\u00a0 We need to have a Biblical response, because we want to be God\u2019s kind of person, living according to God\u2019s principles.\u00a0 You could say, \u201cJoe, I know that really hurt you what they did.\u00a0 I think it would be important for you to respond the way God would like for you to.\u00a0 I tell you what, I will pray with you in the matter that you will be able to commit it to God and trust Him to handle the situation.\u201d\u00a0 Now would not that just shock the socks off them?\u00a0 That is God\u2019s person responding in God\u2019s way. Psalm 37:1-9 \u201cFret not thyself because of evildoers, neither be thou envious against the workers of iniquity.\u00a0 For they shall soon be cut down like the grass, and wither as the green herb. Trust in the Lord, and do good; so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed.\u00a0 Delight thyself also in the Lord; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.\u00a0 Commit thy way unto the lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.\u00a0 And he shall bring forth thy righteousness as the light, and thy judgement as the noonday.\u00a0 Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for him: fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the man who bringeth wicked devices to pass. Cease from anger, and forsake wrath; fret not thyself in any wise to do evil. For evildoers shall be cut off: but those that wait upon the Lord, they shall inherit the earth.\u201d The fleshly response to hurt is in verse one and eight.\u00a0 Verse one: 1. Fret 2. Envy. Verse eight: 3. Anger 4. Wrath 5. Evil.\u00a0 The fret, envy, anger, wrath, evil cycle.\u00a0 That is the fleshly response.\u00a0 David here was hurt because it seemed like the evil doers prospered and he could not understand that.\u00a0 He can respond in one of two ways.\u00a0 In the flesh, he can fret over the hurt and become envious of the other person etc. (the person who hurt him). This envy leads to anger, which leads to wrath (strong desire to avenge) and when he does that he wants to do evil to that person.\u00a0 We know that responding by evil is not of God.\u00a0 We know this is not right, but how many Christians do you know that want to do evil to others because they have been hurt?\u00a0 \u00a0Romans 12:17; 19\u00a0\u201cRecompense to no man evil for evil.\u00a0 Provide things honest in the sight of all men. Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay\u00a0saith the Lord.\u201d \u00a0If you respond God\u2019s way as God\u2019s kind of person, he will take care of you.\u00a0 That is his promise and that is what he did for David when Saul tried to kill him.\u00a0 \u00a0Psalm 37: 3-7 \u201cTrust in the Lord, and do good; so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed. Delight thyself also in the Lord; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.\u00a0 And he shall bring forth thy righteousness as the light, and thy judgement as the noonday. Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for him: fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the man who bringeth wicked devices to pass.\u201d \u00a0The spiritual response is found in these verses: Verse 3 – Trust\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Verse 7 – Rest Verse 4 – Delight\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0 Verse 7 – Wait Patiently Verse 5 – Commit \u00a0Spiritual Response: The Trust, Delight, Commit, Rest, Wait Patiently cycle.\u00a0 The Flesh Cycle: The Fret, Envy, Anger, Wrath, Evil cycle. Someone says, \u201cWell Pastor Coomer, Are you telling me that I should be like an old rug and let others beat on me all the time.\u201d\u00a0 NO!\u00a0 Because if you do that it will build up like water in a bucket and eventually that bucket will be dumped on someone.\u00a0 God knows it hurts and he wants you to get out of His way and let Him handle it.\u00a0 People tell God, \u201cGod, they hurt me and I have got to do something about it! Step 1 Psalm 37: 3 \u201cTrust in the Lord, and do good; so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed.\u201d Trust in the Lord \u2013 we have talked about His justice, His mercy and who He is.\u00a0 And until we trust Him, we will not be emotionally free and we cannot do well unto the person who had hurt us. Step 2 Psalm 37: 4 \u201cDelight thyself also in the Lord; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.\u201d\u00a0 Delight means to get emotionally preoccupied with what is going to happen.\u00a0 When our girls were little and we would travel to Grandma and Grandpa\u2019s house they would get emotionally preoccupied with getting there.\u00a0 \u201cAre we there yet daddy?\u201d\u00a0 That is what the word delight means. Isaiah 26:3 \u201cthou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.\u201d Folks, have you ever stopped to think that the hurt you are experiencing is there so God can receive honor and glory?\u00a0 Jesus died on the cross.\u00a0 He suffered hurt for my sins and your sins so we might go to heaven.\u00a0 God used that hurt to bring honor and glory to himself.\u00a0 Also, here God is saying you can delight for the person who had hurt you.\u00a0 God has a specific job to do in his or her life, but God cannot and will not work that way if you are in the way with the fret, envy, anger, wrath, evil cycle.\u00a0 Have you ever noticed how many times in the Bible God has said if you will do this I will do this?\u00a0 \u00a0I John 1:9 \u201cIf we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.\u201d Get out of the way and let God work.\u00a0 You can delight in the Lord with your own life, and that God will receive the honor and glory.\u00a0 This will work in the life of the one who hurt you and your own life.\u00a0 If you are fretting, you are not trusting.\u00a0 And if you are envying you are not delighting. Step 3 Psalm 37:5 \u201cCommit thy way unto the lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.\u201d\u00a0 \u201cCommit our way,\u201d means our lifestyle lives the way God wants us to live.\u00a0 Our total life revolves around what God wants.\u00a0 Here is where Satan will contrive to come at you because you want to stay in control.\u00a0 You may have to spend many hours on your knees committing this to God.\u00a0 You may have to go back to God over and over on it.\u00a0 You may find yourself fretting over it again and becoming envious and angry.\u00a0 You may have to go back to God many times when you find yourself slipping into the fleshly cycle.\u00a0 Many times I have had to spend hours on my knees over this.\u00a0 God has options to deal with this person you never dreamed of.\u00a0 God always gets His man. Jonah was stubborn and rebellious and God finally had to put him in the belly of the fish for three days and nights.\u00a0 God got his man and if this person continues to live in rebellion, God just may take him home early.\u00a0 I John 5:16-17 \u201cIf any man see his brother sin a sin which is not unto death, he shall ask, and he shall give him life for them that sin not…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[28,47,51,46,48,65,14,8],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2996","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-anger","category-comfort","category-forgiveness","category-patience","category-peace","category-relationships","category-the-tongue","category-trials"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p4o6C2-Mk","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.inthineheart.com\/staging\/8143\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2996","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.inthineheart.com\/staging\/8143\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.inthineheart.com\/staging\/8143\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.inthineheart.com\/staging\/8143\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.inthineheart.com\/staging\/8143\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2996"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.inthineheart.com\/staging\/8143\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2996\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2997,"href":"https:\/\/www.inthineheart.com\/staging\/8143\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2996\/revisions\/2997"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.inthineheart.com\/staging\/8143\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2996"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.inthineheart.com\/staging\/8143\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2996"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.inthineheart.com\/staging\/8143\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2996"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}